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I wouldn’t have titled this story “Parenting Potential Possibilities” a few years ago because I thought life was going down the tube rather quickly. You see, I had a teenager. He suffered from bat disease. He slept all day and roamed the planet at night looking for victims. He suffered from entitlement issues. I’ve later learned that this is a growing epidemic called S.R.R. (Spoiled Really Rotten). You see, all my life I rescued him and then I ranted and raved about how I had to rescue him. I never let him learn to do anything on his own because I was busy making sure he never made any mistakes. We couldn’t stand living in the house with him and I’m quite sure that the school couldn’t stand him either. Then something happened up at his school, Lincoln High School.

There was a new initiative called EBIS. This is what our state calls School-wide Positive Behavior Support. In our state, it stands for Effective Behavioral and Instructional Supports but it means the same thing. I found out that there are over 2800 schools across the United States in 36 states currently using this implementation. All I can say is, “It’s about time.” From a parent’s perspective, it means they are teaching the kids what they should have been taught back in pre-school. They are taught how to behave. This doesn’t mean that they tell them to “Be good.” I think we all know that doesn’t mean anything to a kid. I also know that telling isn’t teaching. They teach them a new behavior. Then the adults model the behavior. Then the adults give the students opportunities to practice the new behavior and finally; they catch the students exhibiting that behavior.

The really important thing is they are not teaching them things like how to tuck their shirts in or wear a belt. They are teaching them what it looks like, sounds like, and feels like to show respect to: self, others, and environment. My husband is the human resources officer for a large company here in the south and those are the skills he’s looking for in the employees he hires.

Reflections:

  1. Why is there an epidemic of children who feel entitled to everything handed to them?
  2. Why is it important to tie the skills being taught to lifelong goals needed to pursue a career?
  3. Why is it important that a parent noticed that something was different?
  4. Why is it important for the students to know what these new behaviors look like, sound like, and feel like?

 

 


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